Even with the best of conversational intentions, you can feel the misstep. The trust is tenuous, but growing, and then it happens. Too much is asked and the conversation narrows.
“Note to world: curiosity killed the chat.” Philip Galanes
Have you given a party lately or invited others to join you for a film, concert or other event? Sometimes we hold back the invitations because we’re not sure people would want to come or could come. I say, invite people to join you for fun events if they cannot attend. Everyone likes to be thought of, and …invited.
“When you don’t respond to texts or phone calls, you’re saying, “You don’t matter.” When you say this enough times…then, you don’t matter. Every action has consequences.” unknown
First, this photo does not do justice to this painting. It was painted by my sister, Jesi Pace-Berkeley, and is entitled Tech Woman.
She exemplifies a knowing balance that I see among my friends. If one’s profession is fun and lucrative, the personal giving back is often to the unfortunate. If the profession is a helping one, the balance of free time is aimed at having some pleasure.
As said in an earlier post, if you want an item, take a photo. Carry it around, show people and talk about the fun you had – free. So you don’t feel deprived, dress up and enjoy the shopping trip. Along the way, smile at and talk to people you meet, hold some doors open, smile at babies and young children and, generally – spread a little cheer. Donate what change you have in the red kettle as you leave – and feel grateful for the experience.
“But perhaps the most profound of the tools we have at our disposal is the simple act of telling our stories to other human travelers – in a circle around a fire, at the back fence with a neighbor, or at a kitchen table with family and friends.” Elizabeth Lesser
Let’s look for this happening in our world. Do we see people together relaxed, laughing, or listening intently to each other?
Birthdays, when you’re older mean at least as much as they did when you were younger. Young people either look forward to an age or dread it because they are giving up a life stage or their youthful good looks.
And when you’re older, you’re more appreciative that you’re alive and can appreciate what you know, family and friends, and all that you can still anticipate and experience. Sometimes, birthdays come with a tinge of regret that a friend or family member was not able to experience more in their lives.
Bottom line…step it up…birthdays are to be celebrated – in warm and caring ways.
What if…what if all your favorite people happened by this table and were invited to stay for a laugh, some food and drink? Wouldn’t that just be grand? Even better, what if these people included all your far off friends or those who are now gone to another place? Sprinkle the jokesters and storytellers all around for best effect. Wouldn’t it truly be grand?