First Thing, Never Be Boring

Don’t worry about aging, worry about being boring. That’s far worse and within our control.
I once read that Leticia Balderidge, Jackie Kennedy’s social secretary, advised to prepare to be social. Read the news, know the scoop, have an anecdote ready to share. Find what is interesting about each person you have the good fortune to speak with. Say yes to events and gatherings. Put some fun into it.

I've Noticed A Balance

First, this photo does not do justice to this painting. It was painted by my sister, Jesi Pace-Berkeley, and is entitled Tech Woman.
She exemplifies a knowing balance that I see among my friends. If one’s profession is fun and lucrative, the  personal giving back is often to the unfortunate. If the profession is a helping one, the balance of free time is aimed at having some pleasure.

The Way We Do...

“The way we do anything is the way we do everything.” Martha Beck
This explanation appears to be true. Do we put enough time and effort into our days to be proud of our accomplishments? Do we truly show up in our lives and become good at many or even one ability? Are we givers or passive takers? As with everything else, it is our choice to make.

Living Each Day

“I wanted to live each day, moment to moment, enjoying the fact that nothing ever stays the same and nothing turns out the way we expect…Wow, life is interesting when everything changes”. Elizabeth Lesser
Makes one want to seize one’s life and hold on tight.

Looking For What You Like…In Life

It’s a version of the glass half full maxim. When I see a person, place, or object, what specifically do I like about it? If I can put together a description of it, I can claim it. General feelings of pleasure won’t be remembered, but specifics will. Then I can look explicitly for what makes it special.
Here, keeping a log to trap thinking can be beneficial – because memory is capricious.   photo Vicki Archer

Short Term Endeavors

At a certain age, we have to know that we’re making short term decisions – and that’s ok. We know that a trip to a new city is it – enjoy and take a picture. Tutoring a young parent new to this county can result in a one time ESL tutoring session where we practice how to ask for a second job. He secured the job, I wish him well – and I’ll never forget him.
Short term events are often very rewarding.

Putting Friends First

Friends deserve to waste some time together, in a new place, seeing new sights, and getting into some mischief. Time spent together makes a friendship thrive and bloom.
Love Vancouver, BC! People in Vancouver are truly nice and helpful…don’t think I’ve ever said this before about a place.

LoDo, Denver, Colorado

“I love to see a young girl go out and grab the world by the lapels. Life’s a bitch. You’ve got to go out and kick ass.”
― Maya Angelou
And it never hurts to know where to shop before the kickin’ starts. Buy one great piece from a shop you’ll always remember.

Maybe Straighten Up and Fly Right?

“Write a detailed description of the kind of person you would like to be ten years from now. Describe your future personality – how you feel about yourself, how you want to interact with other people, how you want to live and love, laugh and play, learn and work, contribute to the world.” Dottie Billingham
Maybe I could straighten up and fly right…

If Invited, Say YES

Spontaneity equals fun. When someone invites you, go. There is always fun to be done if we show up. Bring your warm personality with you.
No invitations? Time for you to invite?

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